In four years of travelling, I have had my fair share of adventures, drama, heartbreaks, insanity, and what-not. If you asked me when I started if I would do this for long term, I probably would have said, ‘no’. I mean, I was three years into university, and I had Law School lined up. There was no way this would work out. But lo and behold, it did. I say this all the time, but I really would not have it any other way. But with the joys come my fair share of loneliness, and you want to know what I hate most about travelling?
Solo travelling means meeting different kinds of people on the road. When you are alone, you will be forced to go out of your comfort zone and just socialise. Nobody wants to be alone when you are in one of the most beautiful spots you have ever been to, so you will have to make friends. I feel like this is a defense mechanism for most travellers so that they will not be lonely nor alone. Because, believe me, travelling alone can get pretty intense at times. You will be forced to be in perfect peace with your solitude because you will be alone most of the time. But once you get the hang of socialising, making friends will be as easy as 1, 2, 3…
When I meet people, I try to be kind and generous and just show them a good time. I feel like it is just innate in myself; making friends. I have met so many great friends in every country that I have been. But you know what sucks and what I hate the most? It is when you meet great people, then you all have to part ways. This is the truth about travelling, and you can never escape it. Moving along to your next destination is just inevitable. I mean, you are all travelling, so what do you expect?
A few weeks ago, I had met the most amazing guy, but he had to move along to his next destination. I also had to leave Mexico City and move along to my next destination. This meant leaving behind the great friends I have met in that beautiful city, and just making new friends along the way. Sometimes this gets to me, because I just want to be comfortable. I had been with these people for so long, and I have grown accustomed to their mannerisms and just being with them for long periods of time. Why would I want to make new friends? I have great friends here. But you know what? Everybody has to leave, and moving along is such a pivotal part of travelling. No matter how comfortable you have been, there will be the time where you will all leave and move along. If I may say so myself, this is the thing I hate most about travelling.
Will I ever see this guy again? I have no idea. We had spent such great time in Mexico City, and at one point, I had been very sad that he had to leave. But this is the reality of our lives. Will I ever see my friends in Mexico City again? Well, most probably. I currently am in the southern part of Mexico, but will be back in Mexico City for New Year’s. Well, I hope.
I get so caught up with being comfortable and just being with my old friends, that I forget the most important thing about travelling: adaptability. In a world where moving along is inevitable, we have to be adaptable to every change life will throw our way. It was not until this week that I had realised nothing ever grows in our comfort zones. We should not box ourselves just because we have felt comfort in a certain part of the world, in certain companies of people. We have to be adaptable to settle in a new place, and make friends with new faces. This is something that I know I am good at, but had been malfunctioning these past couple of weeks.
Travellers are like chameleons. We adapt to everything life and the road throws our way. I thank God I am traveller, because this is such an important life skill to learn. Not many people know how to do it, but thank goodness travellers do.
Leaving can be a sad thing, but it can also be a platform for your personality to blossom. Well, at least, that is what I tell myself. And you know what I learned in all these years of travelling? If you were meant to bump into each again, it will happen. There is no need for you to rush, to obsess, nor to stress about it. If it is meant to be, then time and time again, it will happen. Do your thing, do not follow anybody just because you feel like it, and just enjoy the ride.
“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.”
Ephesians 2:8-9 NIV